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Can BDSM be considered a sexual orientation?

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  1. Tabitha says

    No, because you don’t need to be sexual in any kind of BDSM play. Orientation is pretty much based on the gender you are attracted sexually with. BDSM isn’t a gender to be aroused by XD It’s a thing.

  2. CoCo says

    This is a truly awesome question. The first thing I did was to google “sexual orientation.” On Wikipedia’s page on sexual orientation it lists only four orientations – Asexual, Bisexual, Heterosexual, and Homosexual. When you create a FetLife profile you have twelve orientations to pick from. I tend to label myself bisexual, or homoflexible but those don’t quite fit.

    Next, I googled “sexual orientation test” for the hell of it. I took the The Sexual Orientation Test which told my I am pansexual. The Oxford dictionary defines pansexual as “not limited or inhibited in sexual choice with regard to gender or activity.” So basically I have the ability to be attracted to men, women, and everyone else. And while that may be true on the surface, it doesn’t quite fit either.

    I do believe that BDSM is a sexual orientation. I know I could not be happy in a monogamous vanilla relationship. Being sexually dominated is something that I need to be a happy sexual being. While I might think someone looks sexy, it in no way compares to how sexy I feel a dominant person is.

    If I were to list the qualities of my perfect partner, up there with honesty and sense of humor is the ability to make me weak in the knees by a grab of the hair, a crack of a belt or a whisper in my ear.

  3. Alynia says

    I agree with CoCo. Although I am monogamous, I can only be monogamous with someone who fits with me sexually. For me that is someone who is Dominant and a Sadist, otherwise a relationship would not fulfill me – just like a relationship with a woman would not fulfill a homosexual man.

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